How does a calm man have a communication style? Calmness is a sharp weapon that helps us protect ourselves and protect others from their own anger.
Choosing a suitable outfit is a thing that man should consider. However, the important thing is that every man needs to become a calm man, first of all, by speaking and communicating properly. To do that, try to refer to the principles below.
1 | Listen more, talk less
Philosopher Epictetus once said: “We have two ears and one mouth to hear more and speak less.”
A calm man understands this maxim better than anyone else. During a conversation, he usually quietly “behind the scenes” to have other people as his breakfast, and only spoke up when it was necessary. One way you can do this is by telling yourself that there is another person who is in turn.
2 | Ask questions for others to answer
Listening but not faintly, the men calmly ask interesting questions to keep the conversation going. He provokes, facilitates the person in dialogue with him to express his views, thoughts, and feelings.
For example, when you see an acquaintance coming back from a trip. Instead of saying, “I’ve been to that place too. How is that trip like this? Focus on the others’ experiences when talking with them.
3 | Think carefully before speaking
Calm men tend to be frugal, but once they speak, they are at the heart of the matter, concise, sharp, and clear that they care other’s mental health which can effect on their life. Because he always “bends his tongue seven times before speaking”, that means he always knows what to say and how to say it.
This is not an easy skill to acquire. First of all, you must be very focused when talking and have to speak at a slow pace, in a clear tone.
4 | Do not interrupt others
Interrupting someone is a rude, impolite act. Men are calm and always let others present their full opinions before they speak up. If they needed to say something urgently, they would consult the other person first.
5 | Speak softly, do not raise your voice
Speak softly at a sufficient volume, even during an argument.
Disagreements during a conversation can cause us to unconsciously speak aloud. But a mature and composed man must be able to control his tone of voice.
6 | Don’t get angry
The famous philosopher Plato once said: “There are two things that one should not be angry about: the one that we can change and the one that we cannot change.”
That’s right. If we can change it, what’s to be angry about? Just take action! If you can’t change it, forget it. So, in the end, there’s nothing worth getting angry about.
But we are human, sometimes anger is unavoidable. It may be a way to cover up their hurts and helplessness, it may be a way in which some people report their needs. It is a good means of communication. However, it doesn’t help to solve the problem.
7 | Calm, not weak
Absolute composure is not repression or resignation. Calmness is not about avoiding conflict, but about expressing and protecting one’s own beliefs but still respecting the dignity and feelings of others.
Calm people are always willing to find solutions to problems instead of blaming or complaining.
8 | Think openly
Calm men always have one thing in mind: This world is very large, there are many things I cannot know at all. The people we meet are also diverse, have their own views, and have their own lives.
So, instead of making everything go your way, accept the difference. That is the foundation of an open personality. And only starting with this thought can we grow up and become better.
9 | Take the big deal
Calmness is only one attitude option. The reason some men choose to be calm is that they always take the big game seriously. They don’t make friends because of a quarrel.
They do not let conflicts in the colleague’s relationship affect their work. They understand the value of a step backward, of the word “ring”, of humility to better see the whole picture and make an informed decision for the future.
And if you want to be calmer when communicating, you must also see “the big” thing in each of your conversations.